A friend of mine send me this link (http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-05-21/science/39417258_1_sids-cases-sids-deaths-infant-death) where they talk about Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) is linked to parents sharing their beds with their children especially infants.

Thankfully I don’t have an infant at home now!

I always co-slept with R. More because I was too lazy to get up and go to her bed and feed her. It was just so much easier to just latch her on and take rest myself. My thathi (Granny from mom’s side) was very strict about not breastfeeding the child while sleeping. So I had to get up and sit and do it, but still co-sleeping made things a lot easier for me.

While my thathi was insistent I don’t breast feed while lying down, it was more to do with the fact that she was worried I would roll over and smother the kid if I fell asleep, but I know loads of women who have told me that they find it easy to breastfeed while lying down. Somehow I never got that comfort!

On the other hand, now that the brat is 5, she has her own bed, which is attached to ours but she sleeps there half the night and often jumps into our bed.

So in my humble opinion

Earlier you let the child sleep on his/her own, easier it is

With R turning 5 I am finding it extremely difficult to make her sleep on her own. Forget her own room, she refuses to sleep on her own bed till I lie down with her. Then I climb to our bed after she is asleep. (Dont even ask me how long her bed is going to last with a 70 kg me jumping on it from here to there!) Often the middle of the night she jumps from her bed to mine.

For new parents, I would recommend that the earlier you put the baby to sleep separately, the easier it will be for them to adapt. Of course, the difficulty of getting up in the middle of the night to feed or change the nappy is a pain, but trust me from personal experience I would say that its better to suffer that for a
couple of years, than to have a kid come on the bed and play Manchester United challenging football with you.

Many folks, especially in India feel, putting a child to sleep by themselves is not a good thing to do. But honestly as a working mother, the days R sleeps on her cot without jumping onto mine, my sleep is complete. I find myself more rested the next day morning!

What’s you take?

Co-sleeping is better, or would you rather put your kid into the habit of sleeping alone?

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  1. Preethi Chandrasekar

    We have had all sleeping arrangements. From a rock and play sleeper next to our bed as a newborn, to sleeping alone in her crib in her room as an infant (this was when I could feed her and she would fall asleep and I could come back and go to sleep) , moving to our bed due a trip to india, then to a crib next to our bed to now back into our bed. The latest one because I bought new sheets for our bed which she loved and announced that she is too big for her crib and promptly moved in with us. I don’t mind the latest arrangement, I get maximum sleep (thought I could probably do with trying not to fall off the edge of the bed!) and she gets maximum sleep and we are all happy campers- well mostly. So anyway,I think kids adapt to whatever sleeping arrangement parents set down. It really up to what extent of pain the parents want to go through to set down that rule. 🙂 crying it out for example, I could not go through with it.ps: We do plan to get Dora sheets for her crib and she might just move back !;)