Ever heard the term ‘elimination communication?’ Here’s how you can use it to achieve your parenting goals.
I must confess, I had not heard the phrase ‘Elimination Communication’ till my friend told me about it. I was like WHAT?
And then she explained it to me. And I was like ooohhhh that!
When you type Elimination Communication on Google (that’s what I did) you come up with some 1.6 million hits. Wikipedia states:
Elimination communication (EC) is a practice in which a caregiver uses timing, signals, cues, and intuition to address an infant’s need to eliminate waste. Caregivers try to recognize and respond to babies’ bodily needs and enable them to urinate and defecate in an appropriate place (e.g. a toilet).
In India, at least in the southern parts, elimination communication is a natural part of an infant’s upbringing.
In India, at least in the southern parts, elimination communication is a natural part of an infant’s upbringing. Diapers are considered to be a big no-no, even today, in many traditional families. The parents/ grandparents, use elimination communication as a constant means to reduce the number of soiled clothes in infants.
Here is what I followed with my brats…
1. After both the kids turned three months, one of us would take them to the wash basin in the bathroom and make shush shush sound. Invariably the child would pee.
My spouse was very enthused about this the first time he heard it from my mother. He would take the older one every half an hour and then claim ‘I saved an underwear, I saved an underwear!‘ 🙂
Of course there are loads of misses, but then, it gives the infant an idea that they need to pee when they hear the sound of shush!
2. The other method we followed when shush was not working was to start the water from the tap…since it would amount to wastage, we would just fill in a mug with water and transfer it to the bucket. This sound of falling water would help the infant pee.
3. A third method which the MIL follows is to use water to slightly wet the place from where urine comes, and the child would pass urine.
4. For potty, after the morning milk, once the child’s head stabilised, what we did was hold the child between our legs. Sit down on the floor and keep a newspaper below your feet. Sit in such a way that your knees are facing up. You can keep the child between your feet in such a way that it seems that the kid is sitting on an Indian style potty. Make the child sit on your feet spreading his/her leg gently. Usually, the child will do potty. We tried this for both the brats and it used to work pretty well. We usually did it once in the morning after milk and once in the evening, again after milk. Of course, there were accidents, but those were definitely lesser!
It’s worth a try!
I am not sure if this works for all kids. It’s uncertain if it’s possible to really ‘potty train’ infants, that young, but like the spouse says ‘every underwear saved, is that much water saved!’
I can not imagine a diaper free upbringing, but with elimination communication, I do feel that I am reducing the diaper usage to some extent.
Let me also admit, that I use diapers whenever we take the kid out. I can not imagine a diaper free upbringing, but with elimination communication, I do feel that I am reducing the diaper usage to some extent. Also, this will reduce pollution as well, eh?
Do you have any such tips to share? Do let us know!