Parenting is a draining journey. A strong parent needs to be mentally strong and yet sensitive. It is a fine balance mothers and fathers need to figure out while trying to bring up responsible and empathetic kids.
A part of raising empathetic kids is developing yourself into an mentally strong parent. Understanding what it means to be a strong parent is the first step in getting there. Here are some commonly found traits of mentally strong parents,
Insist on responsibility
Strong parents raise responsible kids. Children who grow up being responsible for chores and errands make better team players and leaders. Strong parents teach and insist on responsible behavior.
Strong parents let their children make mistakes. It is common for kids to make a mistake in their math tests or forget to take their homework to school. Children do mess up. Strong parenting means you let your children face the natural consequences for making those mistakes.
Disciple vs. punishment
Strong parents raise children know the difference between disciple and punishment. Punishment is suffering faced as a consequence of wrongdoing. Discipline is a set of rules the family and the child need to follow. Raising children who can self-discipline themselves is a sign of strong parenting.
Perfection doesn’t exist
Strong parents understand perfection doesn’t exist. They do not expect perfect children and do not push their children to be best in everything. Instead, strong parents help their children get better in things they enjoy and are inclined to.
Keep your fear at bay
It is a scary world out there. Keeping our children protected and safe is our priority. But, we also need to teach self-reliance. Strong parents keep fear at bay and let their children try and explore new avenues. As our children grow up, we become guides. We do not remain protectors.
Positivity is the only way
Strong parents do not let pessimism become a way of life. Being a victim and having pity parties is natural and easy. Instead strong parents teach themselves and their children to look at the positive side of things. It is the only way to go.
Hurt and pain happen
Our children get hurt and struggle. They face challenges and fall down. They struggle with acceptance and anxiety. Strong parents acknowledge the pain. They accept it and teach their children to accept it. They find coping mechanisms.
Strong parents do not lose sight of their family values. They talk about these values to their children and hold themselves accountable. This helps immensely in today’s fast-paced world.
So, how do you parent? Are you a strong parent?