“We become what we think about”
Recently I was reading the book “The One Minute Mother” by Spencer Johnson and the above sentence is from the book. It is a parenting book highlighting three techniques that we can follow as a parent (whether you are a mother or a father). I know as readers you might wonder how it is possible to understand parenting by reading a book, as it’s a bond which can only be felt and experienced. But yes this book did help me to widen my thoughts and organise the parenting blocks in my mind.
To work towards something you should know what that something is
Going through the sentence again from the book “We become what we think about”. It is a simple sentence but holds so much within it. It is so important to make our kids realise that first we have to aim for it, to shoot at it. It’s such a simple logic,which we adults too don’t follow. To work towards something you should know what that something is. One of the techniques that the author wants us parents to teach our kids is the importance of having goals.
I know to make them understand about goals and to stick to that is not going to happen in a day. It’s a slow and continuous process of making them realise it. May be initially we have to invest a little time in them for making them realise their goals, but surely the results will be great.
“Children who like themselves
Like to behave themselves”
I have often come across parents complaining, “We have caught our kid doing something wrong today”. But here the author has put a beautiful phrase – “Catch them doing something right”. There is so much positivity in that sentence, don’t you agree with me?
It’s so important as parents to make our children feel positive and happy about themselves. Because if they feel good about themselves then they perform well too. (As adults even we crave for appreciation from others, don’t we?)
“What’s important as a parent is not so much what happens when you are there,
but when you are not there”
But we forget to realise and make them know that it’s their behaviour which we are upset about and not them
How many times we as parents would have been upset with our children for their bad behaviour. We scold them and make them feel bad and then we leave it. But we forget to realise and make them know that it’s their behaviour which we are upset about and not them.
Here the author talks about reprimand. It’s important to know that when your kids do something wrong, it’s the behaviour that is attacked and not the person.Yes, you have to be stern when you are not happy with your child’s behaviour but after that you should make them understand that you respect them as a person. It surely does make a lot of difference .
All of these as the author says will just take a minute for us to do…that’s why the title “The One Minute Mother”.
I know there cannot be a defined set of rules to be followed for parenting , but yes this book can surely be an important block in building the parenting tower.
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